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Confidently Conquer Your Clutter

Hello Friends,
A few months ago, I wrote out some thoughts that help me to continually focus on being confident. This sits front and center of my desk every day. (For a paper hater, that is BIG)

Anyway, it is smack in the center of my desk to remind me to stop playing small, think BIG, be confident, don't hold back and to demand MORE.
What does all this mean? Let me break it down for you. Stop playing small - I was still seeing myself as I was a decade ago. I have gained so much experience and wisdom. I wasn't using what I have learned. I stopped playing small.
Think BIG - For some reason (oh, yeah, confidence) I was thinking I could only speak to small groups in my area. That's now changed to - why can't I speak to a fortune 500 company? No reason I can think of. 
Be confident & don't hold back - believe it or not I have held back my opinions, laughter or a joke because I was afraid of how I would be judged. I'm getting too old for that. If I say it and someone …

What I did after I failed.

I didn't listen to myself.  I was not confident.

These two things happened before I took the stage to speak a few months ago.

My speech was not authentic.  I didn't connect with the audience and I relied on my notes.  At the time, I thought it was the worst thing that could have happened.  Now, I'm seeing it as an opportunity.

Sure, for a few days I was running through what a disaster it was, listing out the many ways I had failed.

A Shift

Then I decided to shift my thinking.  I thought about how I had failed - but in a way that would be helpful to me.  I got the problem drilled down to two things.  I didn't listen to myself and I wasn't confident.

What does she mean, she didn't listen to herself, you are probably thinking.  I mean that I didn't take ownership over what I was about to present.  I didn't put myself into the presentation.

I was not confident.  I wanted so badly to give this speech perfectly.  I wanted it so much that I relied on my notes and not…