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Intentions

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A couple of years ago, my husband and I traveled to Italy for a 3 week trip.
On the way to board our plane to return home, we got questioned by the gatekeepers at the airline.  What was your business in Italy?   What did you purchase?  How long were you here?  
When I told the guy 3 weeks, he didn't believe me because we had no checked luggage.  We only had the two carry on's that you see here - along with my purse and a backpack.

"You mean to tell me that you've been in Italy for 3 weeks and this is all the luggage you have?", said the attendant.  Yep.  His next question, "What did you buy?"  2 DVD's and a pair of shoes.  "Your joking, right?"  Nope.  I said that we traveled to Italy to enjoy the experience, not to shop.  Apparently this is not the norm.

So much so that the attendant guy said that people bring empty suitcases with them so that they can fill them with their purchases.   Us doing just the opposite completely confused him.

My hus…

Always have something to look forward to

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I've become hooked on the Netflix series - Comedians, In Cars, Getting Coffee.  Jerry Seinfeld (remember him?) is the host and started the show because he wanted to do a talkshow that was different.  So he came up with just what the title says, comedians (Jerry invites comedians he admires and likes) who are in cars (classic cars) and they get coffee (which is like oxygen to me).  So you can see how I was sold on this series.



Julia Louis-Dreyfus was Jerry's guest on an episode (remember her?).  As they were talking about life in general, she said that her grandmother told her something she would never forget and she still keeps this in mind every day - Always have something to look forward to.

Always have something to look forward to.
She went on to say that it could be a little thing, or it could be a big thing.  But you'll be happier in life if you have something to look forward to.

And I thought, "Yes!"  

How often are we so caught up in what we have to do (or what…

Can you see your future?

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I was coaching my client, Carolyn today.   She was stuck in a mindset of only seeing her present circumstances or even worse - the past.  She wasn't seeing her future.  Turns out, she never thought about it.  




I asked her - What it would mean for your life once the paper piles are gone?  What it would mean for your life once the necessary repairs were made to the kitchen and bathroom?  What it would mean for your life once the dread, shame and weight off your shoulders was lifted?  She kept going back to how her home looked right now and the struggles she was faced.  She wasn't seeing her future.  But I was.  Carolyn is so close to having her home decluttered.  But she was still living in the past.

I told her that I had a challenge for her.  I asked Carolyn if she would close her eyes and visualize what her home will look like when it is decluttered, when she can find what she needs and when the overwhelming tension has been lifted from her shoulders.  I heard a deep breath on t…

Freedom, quality time & breathing space

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The New Year is giving me permission to let things go that are no longer serving me.  

For instance, I had a stack of notecards of affirmations from a mindset program I went through last year.   They served their purpose, yet they were still sitting on my desk.  I let them go.

Replaying bad memories.  2017 was just one big %*&# show.  The bad memories of 2017 were definitely not serving me.  So I let them go.

Belts!  I had three belts hanging in my closet that I have not worn for years.  They were definitely not serving me.  I let them go.

After I let these items and feelings go, I felt free - like I was unblocked and able to move forward.



What is no longer serving you?  Is it time?  Do you feel like you haven't even a moment to breathe?  Is it freedom?  Are you able to live your life your way?

Do you want to be able to enjoy quality time and not feel rushed?  Do you want to be able to have friends and family over and not have to stash & dash?  Do you want to be able to have the…

A Long Delayed Invitation to Celebrate Christmas

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"What does your apartment look like?"  

"When can we see it?"

"How many bedrooms do you have?  Can we stay overnight?"

These are the questions that my client, Carolyn's nephews asked her many times after she moved from her mother's house and into her very own apartment.

Initially, Carolyn wanted to have everything in her new home organized just right before she had family over.  She said that by Christmas she would be ready to invite them.  Christmas of that year came and went.  So did many other Christmases.

Carolyn started off with the best of intentions after moving in, but never set up systems or designated places for her items.   Because of that, over the years, since nothing had a place, there was clutter everywhere.  She felt helpless - and hopeless.

I met Carolyn about 5 years ago when she attended a Clutter Support Group that I organized locally.  After the group ended, we lost touch.  

Carolyn and I reconnected again about 4 months ago when I s…

Attacking the Closet

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As I was wrapping up a coaching call with a client, after we had discussed her closet, she said to me, "Let's attack it next call."  My response was, "Of course!"  I love attacking (decluttering) with my coaching clients virtually.

Today I just got through attacking that closet with her and I want to share the results with you...............are you ready for it?  
My client now has 5 bags of clothes donated, a functional closet and dresser.




When I say attacked, I mean it.  We planned out what we would need on hand - bags and a Move box.  Then FaceTime to FaceTime, we attacked.  
As an organizer coach, I provide accountability, patience and tenderness to my clients.  
In the course of 3 hours (one with me and the remaining two on her own) my client had clothes hanging in her closet and folded in her dresser that she loved wearing and that fit her.
By attacking her closet she is saving herself time selecting clothes (no more searching through piles).  She is going to…

I Would Never Hire You

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I got to sit down and catch up with a long-time friend this past weekend.  A friend who has always been brutally honest with me.  A friend that I can count on to tell me how she sees it.  Even though at times what she says stings, I appreciate her candor and I appreciate her advice.

So when she asked how my business was doing, I told her straight out.  I said that lately, I had many prospective clients interested in working with me, telling me that they really need me and then......crickets.  It's like they fall off the face of the earth!

Then my friend said this - and I almost fell off my chair.  "I would never hire you - and you know I need you."

Huh?  Makes no sense.  So of course I asked her to expand on that statement.  And she did.  Here's what she said, "I know I can do it myself.  I know that I can clean up and get back on track with out your help."

So why doesn't she do it?  If she knows she can?  

She said she doesn't know.  She does know that …